Solve Your Hassles & Conflicts Using Low Pain Solutions
December 10th, 2013
As I watch my little girl run down the sidewalk to her Naperville ballet classes, my heart sings a little bit. It’s not just the fact that she is adorable in her black little leotard and pink tights with her tight bun on top of her head. I love watching her love something that is so good for her.
The Naperville [...]
December 9th, 2013
Because I am a work at home mother, I never seem to find the time I need to exercise. I always start my day with the best of intentions, but something or someone always seems to get in the way. I tried a gym membership, but that did not work out either. I am tired of making excuses as I [...]
December 9th, 2013
As a programmer I often have situations where I do not know whether my time and effort will be worth the cost that I put into my apps. This is an interesting situation as I need money but the uncertainty of applications is always risky. So I tried to find the best pieces of programming and mix them together. The [...]
December 5th, 2013
There’s a bit of common wisdom that says that picking stocks and other investments is just as well left to random chance as to experts. There’s some truth in this saying; in fact, many of even the best-known financial prognosticators can have a difficult time beating the averages over the long term. Even if such experts are not necessary when [...]
Follow the Signs
We've all been in situations where we didn't see signs of looming problems (or maybe we did, but we ignored them). It takes practice to see signs that conflicts or issues are getting out of hand. As the saying goes, forewarned is forearmed. But in this case, you'll be armed with problem resolution tools. The metaphor of acupuncture comes to mind: sometimes you have to endure a little sting to find real relief from bigger issues later. When you start to look for and see signs of miscommunication, for example, you can pay attention and make a resolution plan.
Keep Your Problems Small
It sounds easy in theory, but in practice it's often hard to nip a problem in the bud before it grows into a big problem. There are several reasons people hold onto small problems; sometimes they don't know they are there, or are out of touch with the clues. When you've crafted your plan, there are still a few more steps you can follow when you prune out the small problems. These are pieces of advice anyone can follow at work, at home, or at that highly-emotional weekend football game.
When Old Problems Return
Sometimes, despite the best of intentions, old habits die hard—and problems you thought were long since resolved come back to haunt you and your relationships. There are several reasons this happens, but what do you do next? Some strategies have to be revisited or changed when it comes to keeping problems from recurring. Think it through, put on your negotiator hat, and get ready to tackle those pesky problems when they show up once again. It also helps to have patience with yourself and others when those problematic habits return.